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Most sex advice assumes a body that does what it’s told. Bend here, hold this, support your weight on that joint for as long as
You didn’t sign up to be a carer. Neither did they. That wasn’t the deal when the relationship started. And yet here you are, a
There’s a grief that sits underneath chronic pain that most clinicians don’t name, most partners don’t fully see, and most people living with it don’t
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If you have hypermobility, fibromyalgia, POTS, endometriosis, or interstitial cystitis, and sex hurts, you are not unusual. You are also not broken, dramatic, or making
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